What to Wear to a Swingers Club: From Sexy to Subtle
Nervous about what to wear to your first swingers party? From flirty dresses and stylish shoes to playful playroom looks, we’ve got the sassy style guide you need to feel confident and fabulous!
By: Kat Swings
So, you’ve decided to take the plunge into the thrilling world of swinging, and now it’s time to face the ultimate question: what on Earth should you wear? Fear not, fabulous swingers! We’re here to guide you through the wild fashion jungle of your first swingers club, where the vibe ranges from “I just stepped off a runway” to “I’m feeling casually sexy.” Let’s dive into the dos and don’ts of attire, whether you’re hitting the dance floor or venturing into the playrooms.
Don’t forget to check out more newbie swinger advice in our Vanilla Swingers podcast.
The Dance Floor Dazzle
First up, let’s talk about the DJ and dance area. This is where the energy is high, the beats are pumping, and everyone is ready to let loose. You want to look hot, but comfort is key—because you might just find yourself dancing like nobody’s watching (even though everyone totally is).
For the Fabulous Ladies:
Flirty Dresses: A little black dress (LBD) is classic, but consider something with a daring cutout or a low back. Remember sexy is your best friend!
Bold Accessories: Stack on the bling! Statement earrings, a flashy choker, or even a bold bracelet can add that extra pop to your outfit.
Shoes to Impress (and Survive): Leave the stilettos at home if you’re not a pro at strutting in them (unless you’re going to Paris’ Les Chandelles). Opt for sexy but stable heels or even cute ankle boots.
For the Sexy Gents:
Smart-Casual Vibe: Think fitted jeans or stylish chinos paired with a crisp button-up. You want to look polished without trying too hard.
Footwear that Rocks: Ditch the sneakers unless they’re high-end or designer. Opt for stylish loafers or dress shoes that say, “I clean up nice but still know how to party.” Think club wear!
Accessorize Like a Pro: A sleek watch or a subtle bracelet can elevate your look. Just keep it classy, not over-the-top. You want to charm, not confuse.
Entering the Playrooms: It's About to Go Down!
Now, when it’s time to transition from the dance floor to the playroom, things get a little more, well, intimate. Here’s how to navigate the fashion shift without losing your groove.
For the Fabulous Ladies:
Lingerie Layering: Depending on the swingers club, you might want to wear sexy lingerie under your outfit. Think lace bodysuits, bras with matching panties, or even sexy corsets that can be easily revealed when the mood strikes.
Slutty yet Classy: You can wear sheer cover-ups, sexy kimonos or go with the provided towel! Just remember, subtlety is sexy!
Confidence is Key: Whatever you wear, own it! The more confidence you exude, the hotter you’ll look. No one’s judging; they’re too busy being envious.
For the Sexy Gents:
Strip Down with Style: If you’re feeling adventurous, opt for fitted boxer briefs or sexy trunks. You might also want to consider a harness or a nice pair of suspenders—these can really turn heads.
Be Confident: Just make sure you feel comfortable and confident; there’s nothing sexier than a man who owns his look.
Rock the Towel: Or you can rock just a towel! It’s cheeky, fun, and leaves a little to the imagination—keep it simple, stupid! (KISS)
Know Your Venue
Now, a quick note: if you’re heading to a posh spot like Les Chandelles in Paris, you better dress to the nines! This isn’t your average swinging venue; think stiletto heels, evening pants and dress shoes.
For most other swinger clubs, though, you can have fun with your style without going overboard. Swinging is about confidence, exploration, and enjoying new experiences.
Now go out there, strut your stuff, and get ready for a night of unforgettable fun! Your outfit is just the beginning—what happens next is all up to you!
💋 Happy swinging!
Find all of this and more on this episode of our top-rated swingers podcast for new couples to the lifestyle, the Vanilla Swingers podcast!
Swinger Lingo (check Swinger Dictionary for more!)
Newbies: The fresh-faced newcomers to the swinging scene, eager to explore, learn, and dive headfirst into the steamy world of non-monogamy. Individuals or couples who are new to the swinging lifestyle and may be exploring it for the first time, often seeking guidance and information as they navigate this new experience.
Swingers Club: The playground of pleasure, where fantasies come to life and every night is a tantalizing adventure. A dedicated venue or establishment where individuals or couples within the swinging community gather to socialize, explore their sexuality, and engage in consensual sexual activities with other like-minded individuals.